Friendships are very dear to us. A friendship break-up can be very painful, perhaps even more painful than a relationship ending. Want to know how best to deal with it? Here are our top tips for letting go of a broken friendship.
Consider the negative aspects of the friendship
If the friendship is over, there is of course a reason for this. A good way to cope with the loss is to focus on the negative aspects of the friendship in the beginning. Realize for a moment that you don’t have to deal with this anymore. For example, did your former bestie often lie to you or were they always late? Great, you don’t have to worry about that anymore. It may sound quite cold. But this way you can better accommodate your sadness.
Give yourself time to mourn the lost friendship
However, you will probably notice that focusing completely on the negative aspects of the friendship is not always successful. Losing a friendship is just a loss and it leaves a hole in your life. So you already have the right to mourn this. Give yourself this time and don’t put it off. This only postpones the problem to a later time and does not solve anything.
Cut off contact
Just like with a broken relationship, in the event of a friendship break-up it is good to cut off all contact with that person for a while. You can’t get over someone if you are in constant contact with them. Put the conversation in WhatsApp in your archives, mute it on Instagram and don’t look it up on other apps.
Talk to someone about it
Being able to express your feelings with someone is always good. So talk to someone about it and vent. You don’t necessarily have to ask that person for advice. What matters most is that you express your feelings. Would you rather not discuss it with anyone? Then you can also write it down.
Surround yourself with other friends
The loss of a friendship is painful, but fortunately there are more people in your life who love you. Surround yourself with other friends who are there for you and can distract you if necessary.
Stay busy
Sometimes distraction really is the best medicine. Keep yourself busy at times when you don’t want to think about that person. Take up a new hobby, for example! You can’t think about your lost friendship while baking a cake, right?
Make new friends
Think of it this way: a lost friendship means there is room for a new friendship! Find new people to connect with or improve the bond with an existing friend. This is how you fill the gap left by your previous bestie. Just remember that this new friendship should not only serve as a replacement for the old one, that is not fair to the other person. Only make new friendships if you are truly interested in making new connections.
